Value of Values: Reflecting on my childhood, as a human not so much a woman, one of the greatest gifts my parents ever gave me outside of unconditional love is the belief that you can do just anything you set your mind to. You can be anything you set your heart to do. So where do the fears and debilitating believes comes from.  I read somewhere form another woman that, 5% of all you need to achieve what you must is strategy, the remaining 95% is the mentality that I can and I will. “The mindset”.

Growing up, my Dad never separated us girls form the only boy we have. He wanted to change a bulb, I was there to help. He needed something to hammer, you hold the nails. We all knew where his tools box was, we knew where his books were. I read the newspaper as early as I could read and it was intriguing.

In my head somewhere, I believe there is nothing I cannot do if I put my heart to it and give it sometime.

The mindset that some chores were for girls and others for boys never existed in our home. All chores were equally distributed.

Children need to grow up in an environment where they can learn to do everything and be all that is in them. Never let them think that something is off limits. Do not raise entitled children. They constitute a problem to themselves, to you and the society in future. Do not raise irresponsible children who believe that the world should be handed to them on a platter.  If they can play, they can read, if they can waste, they can keep. If they can speak, they can learn. Never give in to manipulation by your child.

The best gift you can give to your child is the gift of independent thinking and living. Choosing right from wrong, being kind and considerate, loyalty and faithfulness; these are worthy values. Unfortunately these values are quickly been eroded in society and concern for the fellow individual is fast eroding. The world is becoming filled with selfish, entitled, greedy and inconsistent adults. They didn’t just appear. These characters were borne out of traits picked along the way. The lack of correction, motivation or the comment, he is a child, she is a child, they will grow out of it or boys will always be boys.

My dear parents, boys don’t just always remain boys; They become grown men who think that the world was made for them and they should be served. They become ladies who think that their bodies are stronger than their minds.

Please do not leave a legacy of regrets behind. More women took the first man to the moon if you can believe that.

If you can think it, You can do it. Give that to your child.

Have a great day!