Looking good they say is good business. That’s true, as everyone needs an extra boost aside character and abilities. This write up presents a higher proposition that though looking good is good business, complimenting good looks is a better and more profiting business.
Orofin Oluwatosin
As a lady it is very normal for you to receive compliments from all gender when you add an extra touch to your usual look. When you have a change of hair style, use a different lip stick from the usual or put on a new outfit. You get compliments especially from the male gender and if you are a ladyy surrounded by witty men you get melting compliments. These compliments makes you feel better, more confident and serves as the wages of your labour into how you look.
However the male gender rarely get compliments, research has it that for every five ladies that is complemented on their looks one male receives a compliment.
Most times ladies demand compliments from men and sees it as their right. It is important to note that everyone who has gone an extra mile to look good deserve to be complimented.
Yes ooo my sister that your neighbor that changed from his regular shirt without tie that puts on a tie one day deserves a compliment from you. That your brother that pays attention to his matching shoes and belt needs a compliment. Simple act of appreciating someone’s effort on their looks have a huge transformative effect on their attitude and productivity.
Compliments are powerful, compliment has the ability to change the fabric and wiring of the brain. When you constantly compliment new improvement you become better in your ability to notice minute changes and pay attention to details.
Compliment also helps us with learning by improving long-term memory. Recent researches suggest that when an individual is praised after learning or making a change, it affects the part of the brain that is responsible for memory consolidation and building of long-term memory that goes on during the individual’s deep sleep. When the brain associates the positive feeling with what is newly learned or changed we tend to remember those materials a lot better.
As a lady you gain more when you pay attention to the looks of the men around you and pay compliments.
First you begin to strike the male gender as a lady who cares for them and appreciate their person. Then they begin to perceive you as someone they can trust especially when you are sincere and sweet with your compliments, also it helps you to tilt towards positivity rather than negativity. Research shows that offering compliment works better at improving the performance of other people than criticism or negative remarks. So the best way to correct a man is to first have a habit of complimenting His good deeds and looks, that way you can easily correct them.
When you constantly look out for what stands out in them, they will feel free and comfortable to open up to you when they have issues. Compliments warms up relationships, compliments are grease that helps reduce friction and fracas in communication.
Study has shown that when you praise someone, that person is experiences a good feeling in the resultant surge of Dopamine. This is something their brain wants to experience again and again, so they become more willing to complete a hard or stressful task than they otherwise would. Whereas when you are criticizing someone, it is giving their brain an adverse reaction.
One weapon that we have as ladies is our mouth, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. But we use it mostly when we need things from the male gender. We begin to call them sweet names and try to make them feel special for that moment and after the favor we go blind to all their Sweetness. You see, the male gender is already stressed by the society, the least we can do to ease their stress is to pay them compliments that boost their resolve and self-esteem.
Compliments as small as noticing His lapel pin, the colour combination and how well he ironed his clothes goes a long way. Many guys don’t pay attention to how they look because we ladies don’t seem to care until the guy has a personal relationship with us, that’s not too good.
Ladies that guy that is forming hard man hard man, constant compliments will break Him.
There are simple rules to using Compliments:
First your compliments must be sincere, don’t in the name of trying to get familiar loose your integrity. Compliments are awesome. They are free, and goes a long way in building trust and friendship. But giving fake and deceptive compliments or insincere praise can actually have the opposite effect. Ladies, please if there’s nothing to compliment in the looks compliments his person or his demeanor.
Secondly, be simple and precise. Don’t make a big deal out of complimenting them. Compliments has to look real and natural, when you begin to make it look like you are doing them a favour by complimenting them they won’t want it or value it anymore.
Furthermore, Be creative and intentional about it. Don’t always say the same thing the same way, if you like his hair cut say it in different sweet ways. Interesting compliments last longer and have more effect than ordinary compliments.
Don’t give compliments because you want a favour, though it can come in handy when you need to ask for a favour but it shouldn’t be the sole purpose of complimenting the male gender. Remember our aim is to get the best out of the men around us and not to exploit them.
Also don’t give compliments that would send the wrong signal, I hem you tell your male colleagues you are looking hot and sexy and you are not in any ready for a sexual relationship, you are sending the wrong signal. Ladies don’t add honey and sugar all in the name of complimenting a guy so that you won’t have running stomach . Please avoid premium tears Saga.
Don’t forget that the reason for complimenting them is to get the best out of them, so if one style of complimenting is not working try another one. Every man has an area where compliments gets to and they blush and melt away. In as much as we get their attention and admiration by looking good, we can get better from them by showering compliments on them.
Use your mouth to get more from the male gender. That’s one of our feminine essence. Share your testimony with us